I’ve been fairly vocal over how I feel about the concept of welcoming failure into your life. It’s kind of like welcoming heroin into your life. It feels great when you first do it, then it quickly ruins you! Failure is heroin to your mind and confidence!

You are being sold a giant line of bullshit!

You have been told that ‘you just need to fail more’! If you just fail, you’ll find success! Failure is a good thing!

It’s not!!!

You know what happens when you actually fail?  It makes it easier for you to fail again. You’re actually teaching your mind and body how to fail! The way to success is not through continued failure. They way to success is by finding small ways to succeed. Giving your mind and body the pathway, the confidence it needs to succeed big.

Statistically, you are more likely to fail, the more you fail! It’s simple mathematics. Have you heard the statement, “It’s hard to beat a team three times in a row!” This is said in sports a lot after one team beats another team two games in a row. Statistically, it’s actually more likely you’ll beat a team the third time if you beat them twice already, but we so want to believe it’s not true!

Failure + Failure + Failure + Failure = crippling fear that you’ll never get it right for 99.99% of people.

Small success + Small success + Small Success = eventual big success!

It’s how we teach a child to do something new. You don’t teach a child to ride a bike by throwing them down the largest hill on the block and just let go. They’ll crash. They’ll crash again. They’ll crash again. Eventually, they’ll never get back on that bike!

We start small. You get on and I’ll hold and I won’t let go! You go a little ways. You show them that it’s fun. Eventually, you build up to being able to let go, but you make sure it’s by grass, so if they fall, hopefully, they fall into the grass.

Little successes. Lead to big successes.

That’s what my DisruptHR video is all about – check it out!

Failure Is The New Black | Tim Sackett | DisruptHR Talks from DisruptHR on Vimeo.