I don’t necessarily agree with this, but it’s part of corporate culture, almost everywhere. You do a really great at a job, and because you do really great, you get promoted. Eventually, through great performance, you’ll be promoted to a position of leadership. That’s when ‘it’ happens…
“You aren’t the same person any longer!”
“You never would have done that when you were one of ‘us’!”
Doesn’t matter what organization, large, medium, small, public, private, government, profit or non-profit, people who know you best are going to treat you differently when you rise to a position of leadership.
They’ll say it’s you. The problem is, it won’t feel like you. It’ll feel like them.
You’re right, it is them.
People will make you feel like you’ve changed, when in reality it’s how they look at you that has really changed. Before you were ‘just’ one of them. In the trenches everyday working it. Now you’re you, the leader. Their new perception of you, thus their reality, is that you can now do something for them. Before you couldn’t. Now you can. But you don’t. You keep being you. That’s not what they want. They want you to be the new you. The ‘you’ that can get them something. Maybe it’s a better job. Maybe it’s more money. Maybe it’s getting out an hour early on Friday, who the hell knows.
What I know is that it’s not you. It’s them. But you’ll say it’s you, because you’re the leader.