It’s a different world we live. 30 is the new 20, which makes 20 the new 10, which makes me, still old. I’ve mentioned this before, and people always felt like it was always tongue in cheek, but I think it’s time as HR pros and leaders we start having parents in on our performance conversations. I’m serious! I have a great real-life example from the world of the NBA. Klay Thompson, a member of the Golden State Warriors, was involved in a fight recently and fined $35,000. No big deal, right? Typical NBA pro sports behavior. But, wait! His dad, former NBA player Mychal Thompson, keeps his son’s finances and “grounded” him from his weekly allowance! From the Bleacher Report:
“The 23-year-old doesn’t have access to his money, all cheques are paid to Mychal and Julie who take care of his accounts for him to make sure Klay’s financial situation is set up for his post NBA career. So, naturally, Papa Thompson’s going to teach Klay a lesson of his own by fining him personally also, however Klay will find out the old fashioned way.
“He will [find out he’s been fined by us] when he sees that cash envelope show up a little short this week,” he said.”
23 years old. How many young 20’s do you have working in your office? How many of those young 20’s and late 20’s and possibly 30’s – could use a little wake up call from Mom and/or Dad!?
If HR has taught me anything, it’s most leaders are terrible at holding their employees accountable and managing performance. It’s not getting better, it’s gotten worse over the past 5 years. Most organizations eliminated or reduced leadership training during the recession, so our leaders haven’t gotten better, they’ve gotten worse. We can start spending a ton of resources to train them and get them up to speed – or – we could just hand them Billy’s Mom’s number and have her come by the office one day. Kind of like a conference at school!
“Mrs. Sackett, we are glad you could take time out of your busy day to talk about Timmie. You see, Timmie is a little…well, let’s say Tim’s performance isn’t where it should be for someone of his age, experience and education. I was hoping you might be able to help me get Tim back on track. Here are some examples of what Tim’s been doing…”
Can you imagine how 99% of those poor performers involved in this conversation would change!? We laugh because it seems absurd that we would have to call in someone’s parents to adjust their performance, but I truly think in the right circumstance, it could really work. I’ve seen it work well with good performance. I’ve had a past boss speak to my mother about my good performance and she lite up like a Christmas tree, made me feel proud. After that happen to me, I did it with some employees who worked for me, with the same result. If it works so well on the positive side – why should we dismiss it wouldn’t work on the correction side?
Before you let go of your next poor performer – do me one favor – make one more call – one last ditch effort – call Mom and Dad in for a meeting.