Greatness Defined – finally!

For those who are fans of the NBC TV show Parks and Recreation you’ve probably already seen this – for those who haven’t – it’s brilliant!

Here is Ron Swanson’s Pyramid of Greatness:

 

 

So, you want some Great Leadership advice from Ron Swanson, here you go:

  • America: The Only Country that Matters.
  • Fish meat is practically a vegetable.
  • Capitalism: God’s way of determining who is Smart and who is Poor.
  • Skim Milk: Yep, it’s on there twice – Avoid It!

Sometimes, you just don’t know when Brilliance is going to find you!

Laurie Ruettimann – This one is for you!

 

Marriage Advice from a 80 year old Liquor Store Clerk

There are certain times in your life when you just know you are in the middle of a conversation that you were destined to have for some strange reason.  This happened to me last Sunday.  I live in a small town outside of Lansing, MI – a sleepy little bedroom community – DeWitt, MI (hometown of 2012 USA Olympian Jordyn Wieber! – “Wieber Fever is greater than Bieber Fever!).  I have a pond in my backward – I like to fish – I have an 8 year old who likes to fish – we needed some worms.  (Aren’t you excited to stopped by to read this today!) The liquor store in town has live bait – so we went up to get some worms for some relaxing Sunday fishing – sounds like a great day.

As I waited in line with my tub of 36 red worms – I noticed the lady behind the counter was fairly old – like Grandma age – at least 80, maybe a couple years north of that.  When it was my turn to check out – I was the only person left in the store and she looked down at my tub of worms, saw my wedding ring and said to me – “I sure liked being married”.  You see this woman had been married to the same man for 62 years!  Can you imagine – 62 years – I don’t think I even want to be alive to be 62!  I told her that in a few weeks, I will be married for 20 years – in which she immediately replied – “To the same woman?”  Serious as a heart attack, it made me laugh out loud, mainly because of how honest she was in her question – you see she was the clerk and the owner of this liquor store – she’s seen a lot in life! When you work at a store that sells liquor, “cigarette wrapping papers”, half gallons of milk, condoms and worms – you learn a few things about folks.

This wonderful lady then decided she needed to share some marriage advice with me – I think she thought I must have needed it – maybe it was because it was Sunday and I was going fishing instead of being at home with my wife – maybe I just had that look about me – that I needed a good talking to – either way I was about to get some schooling. Here’s what she told me:

“The secret to being married for 62 years (remember I didn’t ask for this!) is that people just need to learn how to get along. When you’re married to someone you know how to push their buttons, and they know how to push yours.  When one of you is pushing the others buttons you just have to keep your mouth shut and walk away – come back later.  If they are yelling at you, you have to tell them I won’t listen to you if your raise your voice. You talk calmly or I’m not listening to you.”

She then ended my lesson with:

“I sure liked being married.”

I’m not a religious guy – but on this Sunday I think G*d was giving me a lesson on life in this Liquor/worm store.  He was channeling himself through an 80 year old woman – and I’m thankful for the experience.  It was the best $3.22 I’ve ever spent.  I think her advice was spot on – and probably can be used for most of us in every part of our lives – “People just need to learn how to get along.”  Simple – yet so difficult for most of us to get.  62 years of marriage comes with some lessons, doesn’t it?

#5 Lyric That Shaped My Leadership Style

For the background of this list – see my original post from 2-10-12.

The Top 5!  I have to be honest, I didn’t think I had the patience to follow through with this series – but as has gone on over the last 20 weeks – it’s been fun!  The #5 Rap Lyric That Shaped My Leadership Style comes from the Greatest Hip Hop Group of all time – Run DMC!   Off their Raising Hell album, from the 1986 song “It’s Tricky“, here’s the Lyric:

“When I wake up people take up mostly all of my time
I’m not singing, phone keep ringing so I make up a rhyme”


This line reminds me of what is important in HR – the People!  It’s a reality of what we do in HR and Leadership that people are going to take up all of our time – it’s why we have positions in our organizations, and I’m find with that.  I meet so many peers who truly get put off by having to “deal with people” and I find it to be the most enjoyable part of my day.  I couldn’t be an accountant and deal with numbers all day, or an engineer building or designing things all day – I’m one of those crazy people-persons I like dealing with people.

Too often I meet leaders who are struggling in their positions because they have this belief that they shouldn’t have to “deal” with people issues – when it’s really the only thing they should have to deal with.  If you have great accountants, engineers, marketing pros, etc. working for you – you shouldn’t have to worry about the functional stuff – all you have to do is worry about that your people are happy, productive and competent – and then let them go.

A great day for me is when I get to help someone working for me – relieve some pain!  Something that is bothering them, which is causing them to be less productive, less happy or less competent.  I can help remove that and they can get back to do what they do best for the organization.  I’m at the point if I’m not being “bothered” with people stuff – I go searching for people stuff – assuming it’s out there, but they’re just trying to do it on their own.  I want to help – I want to be “bothered” – It’s what I’m suppose to do!

BTW – Run DMC has so many great lines -you should go back today and re-listen to some of their old tracks – pure Awesomsauce!

Keep Being Wrong

One thing I love about being at SHRM12 is that I get to hang out with great HR Pros from all over the world!  And what happens when you get a bunch of HR people together? You talk shop!  And tell a bunch of war stories – and a few drinks are probably consumed – we’re like elementary school teachers at happy hour on a Friday afternoon!

I was with some HR Pros last night and one of them shared a standard HR axiom about what we do as HR Pros in the vain of maintaining consistency – if we are wrong in the beginning, than just keep being wrong!  It sounds idiotic doesn’t!?! But you see it every single day in HR. At one point someone made a decision, for who knows what reason, and no matter what the reason – a precedence was set and through hell and high water we will keep making that same decision!  We are HR!

I’m this person.  Well, I’m trying not to be – you see in my organization we do the same stuff.  If my recruiters exceed their goals we have various rewards that get – one of those is the ability to have a flex day throughout their week, where they can work from home or come in late, leave early, etc.  It’s up to them.  In our environment that reward is worth it’s weight in gold!  But – there’s always a “But” – when a holiday week happens – where the person is already going to be off for a day – we have said – no flex day that week.  Seemed like a reasonable plan.  But was it?

A reward is set up to be a reward – shouldn’t matter if the person has vacation, has a holiday, etc.  I had to ask myself – why do this, take this away just because of a holiday – I trust my people, especially those working their butts off to exceed their goals – so why take it away – I was wrong.  So, I decided to change – do the right thing – do you know what the first reaction was?  Yep – it was “Wait” that’s now how we did it before. A very normal reaction we have as leaders – because we want to deliver consistency to our teams, and I agree with that concept for sustained engagement – but there’s one thing that should override this – when I’m wrong!

So, do you have the courage to stop being wrong? Most of your peers don’t – they get caught up in group think – they get caught up thinking they are being “consistent” and that is good – but being consistent on doing something wrong is just being consistently wrong!  You have a choice – keep being wrong or start being right!  What will you do?

Dating Your Job

I’m at SHRM12 all week and the pleasure of sitting through Malcolm Gladwell‘s keynote this morning! He is by far my favorite author and he was really the only must see for me here at SHRM12 – yes, I have a complete man-crush!   I didn’t stand in line to get his autograph at the SHRM book store, but only because I hate lines!  Gladwell spent most of his time analyzing why generations are different, he’s a great story teller, and gave great examples of why my generation – GenX – is completely different than the millenials – which we all know – but he really went deeper into the subject.

One example that he gave stuck with me, when he used the concept of dating to explain one of the main differences between these two generations. As a GenXer you just didn’t go on many dates – you were lucky to go on a few per year – because once you met someone and you liked each other – it immediately became exclusive – it’s what we did.  Millenials network and date much differently and are willing to go on many more dates and continue dating, finding more than one person they might connect with.  Because of how millenials network, they open themselves up to many opportunities to date.  Doesn’t sound like a bad deal – based on how my dating life went!  I met my wife the first week of college – we will celebrate 20 years of marriage in July!  (so, basically, I had 1 date in college – luckily it was a VERY good date!)

Here’s where I think we run into problems with this type of mentality -with how millenials network – their job!  I get a feeling way too many are just dating their jobs as well.  Many hiring managers are in the GenX age group – which causes them to want employees who view their job like they view their job – it’s a marriage – not a date!  Gladwell pointed this out as a difference that was neither good or bad – just a difference that we as organizations will have to work through.

As an HR Pro I think the big hurdle we have to help our organizations overcome is this concept of being married to your job. It’s easier said then done.  Try telling a hiring manager that it’s alright for a candidate to have 4 jobs in 4 years – they don’t buy it – heck, I’m not sure I fully buy it – it’s a tough paradigm shift to make.  I do think we have the ability, though, to influence this paradigm with our hiring managers – and to get the best talent we must be willing to look through our own filters to help our organizations.  Having multiple positions can be a huge benefit – it’s not always a sign of a “job jumper” – especially over the past few years. We have to provide better tools for our hiring managers to get them to feel comfortable with the skill sets and talent the candidate brings, and less uncomfortable with job longevity of candidates.

Stay tuned for more SHRM12 learning’s.

#6 Rap Lyric That Shaped My Leadership Style

For the background of this list – see my original post from 2-10-12.

The #6 Rap Lyric That Shaped My Leadership Style comes from Drake, making his first appearance on the countdown, straight out of Toronto.  The line actually comes from the Timbaland song that features Drake – Say Something. The line is:

“It’s funny how someone else’s success brings pain”

If you’re competitive, I mean really competitive, you might have felt this.  You’re working your tail off, only to see someone else have really good success, and it actually seems to hurt in your chest – like a burning feeling. It’s not that you wish ill towards the other person, or that you don’t even want them to have their own success – you probably do want them to be successful – but still there is that pain.

As a leader we have to be able to recognize this within our teams – that each and every one of our team wants success and they want each other to have success – but when some get it over others, many times those who don’t get it are going to have some frustration and pain.  It’s completely normal.  Many times we start believing these individuals aren’t “team players”, etc. because they don’t have a positive reaction to another teammates success.  So often I’ve seen this misdiagnosed!  It has nothing to do with how this one teammate feels about another teammates success – it has everything to do with how this individual is internalizing their own lack of success.

If we can understand this, help this person work through it to find their own success – many times you end up with an additional successful employee who is as engaged as ever.  I see organizations all the time ignore this, and the person takes off to another company and finds success there – when they could have stayed and found it where they were at.  Everyone in your organization is different – not everyone is going to see another person’s success as a huge positive.  It might be they feel, or have put, so much pressure on themselves to be successful – seeing someone else succeed just points our their own struggle.

Work with them – help them find their own success.  Don’t automatically take the easy approach of just believing everyone should be supportive and happy of everyone else – some of your best employees are your most competitive – and that competitive nature can do crazy stuff with your mind.  They’ll work through it – but they might just need a little help from you!

Live at SHRM12! One Day Only!

I’m excited – next week Kris Dunn and I will be co-presenting at SHRM National for the first time!  We got the session of death time (last session of the conference) on Wednesday June 27th at 11:30am – but KD and I are Pros – so we will be coming full force whether it’s a full room or their are 3 HR folks left in Atlanta!  Our session is Officially titled: Developing Your Influence to Drive Better HR Performance – the unofficial title is: Raise Your HR Game by Thinking Like a Money-Hungry VP of Sales!

KD and I have done this one before and we have some fun with it.  For all of us in HR who deal with Sales teams on a regular basis you’re sure to get some laughs, but we also really dig into some techniques our Sales partners use, that we in HR can use as well – to give us a better ability to influence decision making in our organizations.

We get most of you will be pretty “conferenced” out by the time the last session rolls around on Wednesday – but we’ll give you the famous FOT promise – We’ll make it fun, we teach you a couple of things and 60% of the time, it works every time!

See you all in Atlanta!

P.S. I would love to meet HR/Talent Pros who read The Project while I’m at Atalanta – send me a Tweet @TimSackett or an email timsackett@comcast.net and let’s get together!

Candidate Screener #1 – Baby Car Seats

There are some things I hesitate to write about – and this is one of them.   Sometimes, in HR, we allow are hiring managers to do somethings that should get us sent straight to hell. First class ticket – and we deserve it.  I have to be careful on how I phrase this one – let’s just say there is this major U.S. company that made Billions of dollars last year, and for a number of years before that.  Their product is something almost all of us have used in our lifetime.  And let’s just say, that maybe, once in a while (or every time) they interview someone – male or female – they “kindly” escort this person out to their safe, security-gated, parking lot, to their interviewees car.   A naive HR Pro would say, “Aren’t our hiring managers nice to do that.”  A savvy HR Pro would say, “Why the hell are you doing that?!”

You clicked the link with the title – so you already know why they escort candidates to their car – they want to see if the candidate has kids.  Ouch.  The feeling is, they don’t want to hire folks with kids, because folks with kids need more time off, and miss work more, and, well, just aren’t as engaged as non-anchor dragging childless employees.  Ouch, again.   There is an HR person, or two, that will be burning in hell for allowing this to continue.

And let’s continue to say, “hypothetically” that I know a person who has witnessed this type of thing happen – hypothetically.  What would you tell the candidate, hypothetically?   First, I’d tell them the truth!   Look you are about to be judged, in a negative way, on your desire and ability to procreate. That being said, we have a couple of options: 1. You can bail on the opportunity. (Great financial opportunity – you can imagine the culture!); 2. You can clean your car out of all incriminating evidence that you have children, like children, were once a child.   Hypothetically – most people are choosing #2.  That surprises me a little – but it’s dependent upon the job market, personal situations, etc.  A ton of factors go into people making that type of decision – I’m not judging – I’m empathetic to the cause!

Crazy right?  It’s 20 and f’ing 12!  We (hypothetically) have hiring managers looking for baby seats in the back of a sedan as a legitimate screening criteria for a job.  God help us.

If hypothetically the above story is true and I somehow get in a terrible accident because somehow my brake lines were cut, accidentally, just know I died with a car seat in the back of minivan – I’m not hiding it for anyone! Fight the Power!

 

 

#7 Rap Lyric That Shaped My Leadership Style

For the background of this list – see my original post from 2-10-12.

The #7 Rap Lyric That Shaped My Leadership Style comes from 50 cent from his song “Outta Control” off his 2005 album The Massacre. This is 50’s 2nd appearance on the countdown (I’m sure he’s so excited!). There were actually two versions of this song – as it was re-released as a remix and that version was more popular. I got the lyric off the original version – because that’s how I roll. Here’s the lyric:

“Success is my drug of choice…”

We live in a society and culture fixated on gaining success, yet, most people don’t know the first thing about how to obtain success.  I think we all get our grandparents advice of “Success comes after hard work”, etc. – but no one really wants to believe that.  Being in HR for almost 20 years, people actions have led me to believe most hope to wake up and have success magically appear!

I’m one who thinks that success really isn’t that hard to obtain, but it takes two important things: Talent and Persistence.  Here’s why.  Success doesn’t happen to those you are untalented, they might get “lucky” in the short-term, but in the long-term their lack of talent will eventually show up.  Also, sometimes being talented just isn’t enough – you need to be in the right place at the right time, for your talents to be shown and recognized.  That is why persistence is a key to success.  You might have the talent and never be successful, because you weren’t persistent enough to allow your talent to become a success.

Success is my drug of choice, because I think it’s the single most factor in sustaining engagement.  Most one wants to work or play for a loser – long term.  As leaders it’s our job to help direct and create small successes for our teams.  Those small successes will lead to sustained long term successes – which leads to a very engaged team.  Easier said than done – but I do believe all leaders have the ability to create these small successes and highlight them to the organization.

Calibrating Your Talent for Succession

I’ve been a part of one organization that thought it was pretty important to do Talent/Succession Reviews (sure every organization will tell you it’s important, but very few actually do anything about it really!) on a normal basis (that basis being twice per year -whether we wanted to do it or not!).  That organization was Applebee’s – before IHOP bought them and gutted it like a homeowner prior to foreclosure – and we called them Calibration Meetings.  We were a growing organization, so having an updated succession plan was critical for success.   We thought we had a decent process, the meetings took way too long – usually all day, sometimes a day and half, and at the end we had a clear picture of where are top players were in their development, who needed our help, and who we needed to go out and shoot.  Perfect.

Here’s what the Calibration Meetings taught me out Talent/Succession reviews:

1. Once you talk about an individual employee for 10 minutes – even the best employee turns into a pile of crap with a million flaws.  Put a time limit on how long you spend on a person, focus on the positives they bring to the team (believe me that’s really hard to do).

2. You will find every reason a person shouldn’t be working for you – and you will still struggle to kick them off your bus.

3. If a person is ready for the next level, and you don’t make it happen – they will leave.

4. People appreciate being told where they stand in your succession plan, more than they appreciate the feedback from a performance review. (it’s really the best indicator of their true worth)

5. You must tell everyone where they stand in succession, even the bad ones, for it to really work.

Want some help getting your Talent/Succession Reviews started? – check this out:

Halogen is bringing in the team at Fistful of Talent for a quick, street smart webinar on how to bootstrap a talent review and get started with Succession Planning.  Attend “Zombies, Grinders and Superstars:  The FOT Talent/Succession Review”. 

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